Love is more that just uttering those words…love is more than material things…love is more than those sweet nothing messages…let me share with you my type of love..

I have been single for quite a while now. Single not because there are no men around but single because I know exactly what I”m looking for. I am at a point in my life where I can confidently say I’m happy and content. It takes a lot of frustrations, desperation, self doubt and heartache for you to get to where I am.  I got to a point where I realized that my happiness depends on myself and therefore I cannot expect anyone to make me whole f I’m not at peace with who I am. And also, you cannot expect true inner happiness if you just get stuck in one place. Routine is safe but very boring and you can’t grow from it.

I spend most of my time at my house, by myself, with my dogs of course. I can cook by myself while listening to music or watch movies and even dance and laugh on my own. That is not crazy, that is very much normal and for me that’s true self love.

Right now, I’m not looking for someone to have sex with, someone to pay my bills, someone who wants to be with me 24/7, no I have a life and want someone who has a very independent state of mind. I’m looking for a companion, someone that I can cook with, converse with and also, not have to talk all the time. We can be in the house together and not talk much, that I’m fine with (you are busy reading a book, watching a movie and I’m also busy with something as well).

I have been in love before and it was a great love(actually twice). He was a great cook, great musician and we used to do great things together. Unfortunately, some great loves are not meant to last forever, they are there to show you what you deserve and I believe there are still more great loves out there.

The only problem we have as human beings is not being open and sincere with our intentions. Its very disappointing but hey, you can never loose hope at finding your great love just because of some bad decisions with people who are not willing to go the extra mile for you.

I pretty much know what I’m looking for and therefore will NOT allow myself to settle for anything that is less than what I deserve. I have actually walked out of a supposed relationship after two weeks of being together because it was just a load of crap.

What have been your experiences at finding love? Have you been lucky or you are still going through the maze like me? But always remember to keep your magic going and make sure you live your best full life. Go out there, explore your hobbies and have fun while at it and your great love will show up when you least expect it.

 

P.s I am about to go on several dates and maybe I will eventually find my knight in shining armor. And what’s nice about these dates is that, I didn’t go out there desperately looking, they have actually reached out on their own and hey…me is single..might as well go out and meet people…and of course I’m ready to mingle but then I know what I want and can smell BS from afar! Will share how it goes if I do meet the one who tickles my fancy.